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Going Dutch

On a dinner date, do you usually go "Dutch" (split the bill equally)?
Yes: most of the time
15%
29%
44%
No: my date usually pays
0%
18%
19%
No: I usually pay
35%
3%
38%
257 Votes:
 
Member Comments
Yes: most of the time
I prefer Dutch in the initial stages of dating. Later trading who treats who is perfectly fine with me :-)
No: I usually pay
I'm old school. That said, I like when they insist on splitting if they have the resources.
No: my date usually pays
it really depends on who did the asking. If he asks then he can pay. If I invited him,then I pay. Some seem to like that( woman paying) and others seem to feel emasculated by it.
Yes: most of the time
Does not matter to me either way.
No: I usually pay
Gentlemen pays
No: I usually pay
Initially I take the traditional route here unless my date insists on splitting the bill.
Yes: most of the time
Dutch is good at the start
Yes: most of the time
It's common courtesy in early stage of dating...if my date insists on paying it's perfectly fine
Yes: most of the time
Its fair & later who ever is doing the treating pays!
No: I usually pay
Old school. Gentleman pays
Yes: most of the time
If I was in a well established relationship then I would probably suggest we take turns.
No: my date usually pays
I still believe in courtship
Yes: most of the time
I do not mind
No: my date usually pays
It really depends.
No: my date usually pays
Women are more challenged financially even today. No man should b offended by having to pay. Men like it unless they're poor too generally. Women of all ages: let him pay; it does NOT obligate you to him!!!
No: I usually pay
Unless I am being treated I pay.
No: my date usually pays
When I'm on a date, the man pays.
Yes: most of the time
Of course.. we as Dutchies always go Dutch..
Yes: most of the time
To show caring
Yes: most of the time
Depends on the situation. I think that if 2 people are just getting to know each other that going Dutch is the proper thing to do. Expecting someone to pay the full bill when 2 people don't know each other (to me) should not be expected. As time goes on in the relationship, then who treats would be an easy solution!
Yes: most of the time
I always plan to pay for me but if someone wants to treat me to a free meal no strings attached I am thankful.
Yes: most of the time
It indeed really depends.. Kinda stupid to start to argue if someone wants to pay for dinner.
Yes: most of the time
I have a job. I can pay my share. I want to be treated as an equal in a relationship, so I always pay half on a date for everything. Occasional exception: if it's a special day such as a birthday dinner I'm happy to be treated.
Yes: most of the time
If the guy wants to pay for my dinner, that's ok, but I don't mind paying for my own meal.
No: I usually pay
it may be outdated but I just offer as a courtesy. if the lady wants to pay half no big deal either way :-)
Yes: most of the time
Money is hard to come by so I like to pay my share
No: my date usually pays
i usually go "spanish"....
At the end of the date, i tell the waiter i am broke so i end up doing the dishes
Yes: most of the time
let go all .I'm sweet.and fun.then honest too
Yes: most of the time
it depends ; I invite you I pay a whole, if I was invited I can negotiate
Yes: most of the time
Unless my intentions are less-than-pure. ::chuckles::
Yes: most of the time
I usually dont split the bill but i pay one time and The guy pays the next time
Yes: most of the time
I kind of just go with the flow. I don't like when a date insists he pay. It's too traditional for me. I feel if I invite you on a date I'll pay and vice versa
No: I usually pay
I'm split with this one. If you are the one who did the invitation, to a place yet unknown to your company, I think you should pick up the tab, because your companion had no clue to where you're going. But, if you're frequenting a well-known location, I think going dutch is just much more fair and easier.
Yes: most of the time
I think for a first date it's nice if the guy pays. I am happy to pay for his dinner next time :)
Yes: most of the time
half half
No: I usually pay
I paid 100% of the time, it was always expected but it didn't make her respect me any more. In fact it was often the very opposite. It's no fun getting used and then insulted later. The act of being gentleman is not valued any more, in fact it is just another reason for a woman to degrade a man. "...too nice"
No: I usually pay
I always think it my duty to treat a lady nicely.
Yes: most of the time
I always offer to split the bill =)
No: I usually pay
Call me old fashion, but I like to treat my lady :-), Especially if "I" am the one that invites her to go out!
No: I usually pay
I always take the bill no !
Yes: most of the time
I always offer to pay my share - I think that's only fair. In truth, I feel most comfortable going Dutch because I am a self-sufficient person and it's only right that people pay their own way in life regardless of gender. However, I do realize that many, if not most, men are raised with different ideas about this and I respect that. So I have learned not to argue if a date insists on paying because I don't want to hurt his pride in any way. I find other ways to even out the cost in these cases. For example, if he paid for the meal, I'll pay for the movie (or if he paid for the movie, I'll buy the snacks, etc). I do think there's something to be said for the inviter paying for the invitee, though - when I invite someone out, I expect to pay for the excursion. Again, it's only fair.
No: I usually pay
"Going Dutch" is a very un-Dutch thing by the way. I am Dutch and am living in Norway and I was totally surprised about the fact that people split bills here. That's totally unheard of to me. It should be called "Going Norwegian" ;)
Yes: most of the time
Although, I think it's n nicer to take turns.
No: my date usually pays
I will offer to pay my share and sometimes it works out like that. If I'm not interested in continuing to date I would make sure I payed. Usually the guy likes to and then sometimes i cook a meal.
No: I usually pay
I would pay...;)
No: my date usually pays
I'm a bit older than most of the people commenting here, and back in the day, the guy always paid. They would feel embarrassed in public for the woman to be seen paying some or all of the bill. The woman would reciprocate by perhaps preparing a picnic lunch, buying movie or concert tickets on occasion, inviting him for a home-cooked meal, or paying in a restaurant when it was the man's birthday or other special occasion like a new job/promotion. If a man expects me to pay half on the first few dates or allows me to, I file him right into the "friend" category, no romance. The word is "courtship," and the man courts the woman.
Yes: most of the time
I always offer to split the bill!
No: my date usually pays
I always offer, but it's such a nice feeling when the guy insists on paying on the first few dates. But I'll always carry my share or more in the long run -- such as paying, shopping for him and making him meals.
No: I usually pay
Chivalry still exists :).
No: I usually pay
I will always offer.
No: I usually pay
I am always very impressed when my date offers to share but I normally foot the bill.
No: I usually pay
Though I'm happy to dine in almost any decent restaurant, I don't usually go Dutch, because I don't usually go. Usually I prefer to have dinner in a private home, either mine or someone else's.
No: my date usually pays
I always went Dutch at one time. It's taken me a long time to allow a man to pay and now I am comfortable with this. I actually feel good when a man that I'm on a date with that I want to see again pays.  I usually enjoy and do the cooking, in a long term relationship, so it's nice for the man to pay for meals whilst dating.
No: my date usually pays
She pays for everything
No: my date usually pays
I may treat if the dating continues. However, I usually end up fixing a lot of awesome meals. It pans out mostly in his favor.
Yes: most of the time
Unless my date is economically challenged, if she insists I pay on a first date, it is a sign to me that she is high maintenance and probably not a fair player that I want to get involved with. If the dating continues, however, I like to pick up the larger share.
No: I usually pay
Eu pago, porem depois com o decorrer da intimidade, seria bom o casal dividir quando der.
No: I usually pay
I usually pay although sometimes we will split which I think can be fair especially if the other person is insisting.
Yes: most of the time
It would be the fair. But i could invite him sometimes. he could invite me sometimes. it would be cute.
Yes: most of the time
I dont expect anyone to pay for my meal. Its sexist to believe a man should pay. Going dutch means there are no awkeard feelings of any obligations and people can get to know each other on equal grounds.. i would not split the bill equally, especially if one of us ordered a more expensive meal. Pay for your own order. Thats my first date rule. Usually seconddate also.
No: I usually pay
Old-old school eat at home....lol
No: I usually pay
Although I'd love to meet someone who'd like to treat me back sometimes. :)
No: my date usually pays
And we always eat out in the USA
No: I usually pay
We bolt out without paying, but I always leave a tip.
No: I usually pay
If I ask someone on a date, I will offer to pay and am happy to pay for my date.
Yes: most of the time
in this day and age there is no reason that a man should have to pay for a woman all the time..both should really pay their own way in my opinion anyway. Unless one is filthy rich and insists...lol
No: I usually pay
no tradition of dating in indian middle class society
Yes: most of the time
It depends whether we like each other and plan to meet again; if so, my date will pay. If there's no interest, then I will always offer to pay half.
Yes: most of the time
It would be fair.
No: I usually pay
It depends, generally I expect to pay - if I did the asking.
A reach is always appreciated, ...
Opting to pay the
Gratuity is a nice gesture.
Yes: most of the time
It depends how well the date's gone!
Yes: most of the time
I try to, but most men I have dated have insisted on paying. It's fine by me, I have no problem in finding a way to repay the sweet gesture
No: my date usually pays
I usually try to split the bill, but often my date will insist on paying so that's usually what happens.
Poll contributed by Ken

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