I've hardly dated so it's hard to answer this one. I date myself so I always pay. :P I think dutch is probably the fairest way as long as it was affordable for both.

I usually try to split the bill, but often my date will insist on paying so that's usually what happens.

I try to, but most men I have dated have insisted on paying. It's fine by me, I have no problem in finding a way to repay the sweet gesture

It depends how well the date's gone!

It depends, generally I expect to pay - if I did the asking.
A reach is always appreciated, ...
Opting to pay the
Gratuity is a nice gesture.

It would be fair.

It depends whether we like each other and plan to meet again; if so, my date will pay. If there's no interest, then I will always offer to pay half.

no tradition of dating in indian middle class society

in this day and age there is no reason that a man should have to pay for a woman all the time..both should really pay their own way in my opinion anyway. Unless one is filthy rich and insists...lol

If I ask someone on a date, I will offer to pay and am happy to pay for my date.

We bolt out without paying, but I always leave a tip.

And we always eat out in the USA

Although I'd love to meet someone who'd like to treat me back sometimes. :)

Old-old school eat at home....lol

I dont expect anyone to pay for my meal. Its sexist to believe a man should pay. Going dutch means there are no awkeard feelings of any obligations and people can get to know each other on equal grounds.. i would not split the bill equally, especially if one of us ordered a more expensive meal. Pay for your own order. Thats my first date rule. Usually seconddate also.

It would be the fair. But i could invite him sometimes. he could invite me sometimes. it would be cute.

I usually pay although sometimes we will split which I think can be fair especially if the other person is insisting.

Eu pago, porem depois com o decorrer da intimidade, seria bom o casal dividir quando der.

Unless my date is economically challenged, if she insists I pay on a first date, it is a sign to me that she is high maintenance and probably not a fair player that I want to get involved with. If the dating continues, however, I like to pick up the larger share.

I may treat if the dating continues. However, I usually end up fixing a lot of awesome meals. It pans out mostly in his favor.

She pays for everything

I always went Dutch at one time. It's taken me a long time to allow a man to pay and now I am comfortable with this. I actually feel good when a man that I'm on a date with that I want to see again pays.  I usually enjoy and do the cooking, in a long term relationship, so it's nice for the man to pay for meals whilst dating.

Though I'm happy to dine in almost any decent restaurant, I don't usually go Dutch, because I don't usually go. Usually I prefer to have dinner in a private home, either mine or someone else's.

I am always very impressed when my date offers to share but I normally foot the bill.

I will always offer.

Chivalry still exists :).

I always offer, but it's such a nice feeling when the guy insists on paying on the first few dates. But I'll always carry my share or more in the long run -- such as paying, shopping for him and making him meals.

I always offer to split the bill!

I'm a bit older than most of the people commenting here, and back in the day, the guy always paid. They would feel embarrassed in public for the woman to be seen paying some or all of the bill. The woman would reciprocate by perhaps preparing a picnic lunch, buying movie or concert tickets on occasion, inviting him for a home-cooked meal, or paying in a restaurant when it was the man's birthday or other special occasion like a new job/promotion. If a man expects me to pay half on the first few dates or allows me to, I file him right into the "friend" category, no romance. The word is "courtship," and the man courts the woman.

I would pay...;)

I will offer to pay my share and sometimes it works out like that. If I'm not interested in continuing to date I would make sure I payed. Usually the guy likes to and then sometimes i cook a meal.

Although, I think it's n nicer to take turns.

"Going Dutch" is a very un-Dutch thing by the way. I am Dutch and am living in Norway and I was totally surprised about the fact that people split bills here. That's totally unheard of to me. It should be called "Going Norwegian" ;)

I always offer to pay my share - I think that's only fair. In truth, I feel most comfortable going Dutch because I am a self-sufficient person and it's only right that people pay their own way in life regardless of gender. However, I do realize that many, if not most, men are raised with different ideas about this and I respect that. So I have learned not to argue if a date insists on paying because I don't want to hurt his pride in any way. I find other ways to even out the cost in these cases. For example, if he paid for the meal, I'll pay for the movie (or if he paid for the movie, I'll buy the snacks, etc). I do think there's something to be said for the inviter paying for the invitee, though - when I invite someone out, I expect to pay for the excursion. Again, it's only fair.

I always take the bill no !

Call me old fashion, but I like to treat my lady :-), Especially if "I" am the one that invites her to go out!

I always offer to split the bill =)

I always think it my duty to treat a lady nicely.

I paid 100% of the time, it was always expected but it didn't make her respect me any more. In fact it was often the very opposite. It's no fun getting used and then insulted later. The act of being gentleman is not valued any more, in fact it is just another reason for a woman to degrade a man. "...too nice"

half half

I think for a first date it's nice if the guy pays. I am happy to pay for his dinner next time :)

I'm split with this one. If you are the one who did the invitation, to a place yet unknown to your company, I think you should pick up the tab, because your companion had no clue to where you're going. But, if you're frequenting a well-known location, I think going dutch is just much more fair and easier.

I kind of just go with the flow. I don't like when a date insists he pay. It's too traditional for me. I feel if I invite you on a date I'll pay and vice versa

I usually dont split the bill but i pay one time and The guy pays the next time

Unless my intentions are less-than-pure. ::chuckles::

it depends ; I invite you I pay a whole, if I was invited I can negotiate

let go all .I'm sweet.and fun.then honest too

i usually go "spanish"....
At the end of the date, i tell the waiter i am broke so i end up doing the dishes

Money is hard to come by so I like to pay my share

it may be outdated but I just offer as a courtesy. if the lady wants to pay half no big deal either way :-)

If the guy wants to pay for my dinner, that's ok, but I don't mind paying for my own meal.

I have a job. I can pay my share. I want to be treated as an equal in a relationship, so I always pay half on a date for everything. Occasional exception: if it's a special day such as a birthday dinner I'm happy to be treated.

It indeed really depends.. Kinda stupid to start to argue if someone wants to pay for dinner.

I always plan to pay for me but if someone wants to treat me to a free meal no strings attached I am thankful.

Depends on the situation. I think that if 2 people are just getting to know each other that going Dutch is the proper thing to do. Expecting someone to pay the full bill when 2 people don't know each other (to me) should not be expected. As time goes on in the relationship, then who treats would be an easy solution!

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Of course.. we as Dutchies always go Dutch..

When I'm on a date, the man pays.

Unless I am being treated I pay.

Women are more challenged financially even today. No man should b offended by having to pay. Men like it unless they're poor too generally. Women of all ages: let him pay; it does NOT obligate you to him!!!

It really depends.

I do not mind

I still believe in courtship

If I was in a well established relationship then I would probably suggest we take turns.

Old school. Gentleman pays

Its fair & later who ever is doing the treating pays!

It's common courtesy in early stage of dating...if my date insists on paying it's perfectly fine

Dutch is good at the start

Initially I take the traditional route here unless my date insists on splitting the bill.

Gentlemen pays

Does not matter to me either way.

it really depends on who did the asking. If he asks then he can pay. If I invited him,then I pay. Some seem to like that( woman paying) and others seem to feel emasculated by it.

I'm old school. That said, I like when they insist on splitting if they have the resources.

I prefer Dutch in the initial stages of dating. Later trading who treats who is perfectly fine with me :-)