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CustomerCareVC Admin here. A blocked member is really blocked. They should not be able to contact you, they should not know they've been blocked, and you should not know if they've tried to contact you! How do you know this?
TzimchoniThe blocking feature is needed because not everyone is reasonable, but I think it should be a last resort.
If people contact me and want to know if we might be a match, but I think not, I try never to say anything negative about them. On the contrary, I thank them for writing (after all, to write can take courage and is flattering) and try to uplift them, complimenting them about their qualities, and I put the onus on myself, saying that my response has nothing to do with them personally but is only related to the common lifestyle elements and values I consider important. Hopefully, this gives them the closure they need and they accept it, and that's that.
I suspect the majority of those who misbehave are the male of the species, who tend to have an innate aggressiveness. Yes, vive la différence, but that's why we have sociocultural norms and religious teachings that are designed to control that tendency. In today's self-worshiping society, however, those influences are sometimes ignored, and that's when blocking may be necessary.
MilwaukeeProfI appreciate Tzimchoni's thoughtful response.
Some of these people are just nuts. Recently there was the guy who had not only squawked about how Christian he is (not offensive on it is own, but get ready), he added something about how beautiful it is for him to watch women pray. Who the hell does he think he is to "watch women pray?" Major red flags were waving there. Besides the crazies, there are the new members who are claiming to be widowed and are just scammers.
CustomerCareRegarding MilwaukeeProf's comment about suspicious members - you may report any member you find suspicious via the "Report" button on their profile or the "Report" button (after clicking the blue "... v" button) in an e-mail to you. We'll check them out for you.
I appreciate the "suspicious, don't tell them" notes that you post and usually just wait for you to close their accounts. I have reported a few. My favorite, so far, was the widowed "guy" ( I don't mean that as in transphobia, but rather as that individual was a pretender, a scammer) whose narrative included "I'm a single mom working hard to support my kids...." A man is a single mom?
As they say in Minnesota: "ya sure, you betcha."
VegInNotOutI only had flu once in my life and it was around 2014; it was wicked! I started getting flu shots thereafter but was not yet vegan. Now that I am back in NYC and socializing with friends, I feel the need. :)
MilwaukeeProfWhile I di finally get the covid shot to protect 93-year old Mom and my sister who had cancer, as well as asthmatic old me, I generally avoid getting products that have been made via cruelty to the other animals.
Evidently, even vaccinated people can spread and contract these communicable diseases. Properly wearing a good mask like an N95 or KN95 ,from what I've seen, works more effectively. An ordinary surgical mask protects others from you, but won't protect you from them. The 95s protect both ways. None of this came from that crackpot Bobby Kennedy, Jr. Links below to reputable sources.
VegInNotOutI do K/N95 mask (and glove) in public places and I gotta agree that I have not had a sniffle since Covid for that very reason… but going out to eat with friends and such are chipping away at that protection…
MilwaukeeProfThe communal eating thing is tricky. Recently, I had my friend since the fourth grade over for lunch. We socially distanced and all was well. We can be six feet apart and still hear one another.
Last spring there was an open house at our old high school. We had planned on eating out together afterward, but then chickened out because an unexpected third was going to join us. Not only is Beth like a big, overly-friendly dog who jumps up on people, knocks them down and sniffs their crotches, having an extra person wrecked my envisioned seating plan of sitting across the table from Cris, but slightly offset.
Can you and your friends meet up at someone's home and sit apart, like TV trays or plates on laps? That's how we celebrated Mom's 90th birthday and, really, with every guest since.
Can't be too careful. If people are true friends they will get it.
VegInNotOuthahaha! ...sic 'em Beth! Alas, my gang and I are quite keen on dining adventures and restaurant experiences. Giving that up would kill the joie de vivre for most... I would simply say no to doing it if I were not willing to take that risk, but I did get the latest booster at least and still mask and glove betwixt those infrequent gatherings.
MilwaukeeProfVegin, how is your dining out going? Have you manage to stay well?
I spoke with my eldest niece yesterday. Her birthday was early this month and she's been dealing with covid this entire time. Lingering cough and fatigue.
My department is planning a social eat out when the semester ends and now I'm wavering about whether to attend or not because of the risks. They were planning it for a day and time when I could get away from my responsibilities and attend, but now I'm not sure its worth it.